“A wonderful memoir. Irwin Epstein chose to write about his male friends and colleagues, but in exploring and revisiting those relationships in depth his own life story emerges.  His intelligence, impressive academic credentials and his decades of teaching around the world, writing and publishing give him a unique ability to see qualities in his subjects that others might miss.  His extraordinary memory provides details from decades ago that give his subjects substance…they are real, more than words on a page.  Ultimately, what emerges is his interests, his character and sense of humor, his delight in food and neckties and his consistent commitment to these friends that he cared about and loved.”